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Woman Crush Wednesday – Lulu Haangala

So its day two of my zed blogger challenge and I thought its Wednesday what better to write about that a female who inspires me. Now I won’t pretend to be deep and all that picking on someone whose name I can’t pronounce or spell right. No. I have decided to pick someone close to home. My big sister the beautiful 🙂 Luyando Haangala.. 

To some she is just some annoying loud little girl who jumps up and down in front of a camera making noise, to others she is a person they look at in awe and aspire to be like but for me she is my sister who is an amazing Mother to an even more amazing little girl, she is an amazing friend and she is an even more amazing sister.

the gorgeous Asante

What is so inspiring about her you may wonder? Her story. She may be an annoying loud little girl who jumps up and down in front of a camera making noise, but she had a dream to get behind the camera and she worked hard until she got that dream. I would like to go into depth about her struggle to get where she is today which is as one of the few delegates selected to the Washington Young African Leaders Fellowship, but I am not sure she would permit me to do so. She is probably saving that for her memoirs and I would not want to preempt that ;-). 

I remember her singing when she was 5 years old, in an off key voice of course (not every 5 year old is blessed with talent at that early age) but she knew what she wanted and guess what that 5 year old ended up being invited to sing for Zambia’s 1st Republican President!!!

the five year old with a voice that sings off key and a dream!!!

When she came back to Zambia, she had a dream of a future she wanted, many looked at her as a dreamer, others, laughed her off, others helped 🙂 and now she is slowly but surely watching her dreams come to light. 

Walt Disney said “All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.” I am grateful for my sister because she gives me the courage to pursue my dreams. She truly makes me believe that impossible is nothing. 

My name is Lweendo and I am a Zed Blogger x

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So, I’m sitting here, waiting for the salon to open, its bout 8am having a bowl of fruit salad which let’s be honest is just a couple of chopped up apples and a sliced banana with just a dash of pineapple but oh well,you know what they say an apple a day! 

Of late I have found myself to be well, quite unhappy I have had to go through so much the past couple months and I generally just haven’t known how to deal. I read a blog from a friend of mine the other day and one of her posts was a reflection on the mistakes she had made and how she was probably still gonna make more than a handful that got me thinking, I made mistakes, I’m gonna make a thousand more, will I let each mistake get me down?? That’s like a lot of unhappiness for one to deal with in a life time me thinks. 

One thing that irks me is how people brand themselves as understanding until faced with a real life situation in which you expect them to understand instead you find yourself on the receiving end of hostility. 

*side thought*, I really don’t like apples, so having to dig thru a bowl full of apples is nothing short of torture I swear. Only reason I’m eating is cause I’m paying for these errrrr apples. 

I really need to get into the habit of jotting down my thoughts, cause this week I had so much to say just no time to write it down but now I’m blank hmmmmmm oh well, guess until next time, xoxo L. 

Rumour has it…

No, I am not referring to the awesome song by Adele, nor am I referring to the 2005 movie Jennifer Aniston starred in. I am referring to nasty old rumours where the only thing real about them is the two-faced person telling them. In all my 20years of life fine 24, LOL, I have never understood the essence of rumours or rumour mongering or should I say to scuttlebutt (yes, I learnt a new word today and I am quite pleased with myself). I don’t get it especially amongst friends, I have always thought that friendships should be open and honest and there should be a presence of trust. An image that, I am sad to write has gradually been shattered with age. I swear I die a little when someone comes to me and asks is it true that?? No I don’t know, why don’t you ask him/her? They are your friend right? Right so go on ask them. They are not dead or laying in a coma somewhere the question you have is about them and they are probably in the best position to answer your question.

Do human beings ever do that? Nope instead they hide behind unsubstantial   assumptions which spread like wild fire ruining one’s good reputation. In high school we had a saying if I graduate with the highest honours top of my class no one will remember me, graduate pregnant on the other hand is and I will be talked about for years. In addition people always say that bad news will always spread like wild fire so for instance say I got my dream job working for the UN earning a 9figure salary some people may not learn of it for years. But say I got jilted at the altar, she-sus how quickly that would go around. What perplexes me the most is the fact that the rumours are spear-headed by people who claim to be our friends. I mean unless the definition of friendship has somehow changed over the years and become of no great significance, I was under the impression that friends were supposed to have your back not stab you in the back. In my opinion the greatest form of bullying does not come in the playground when someone is beating you to a pulp in between the swing and the see-saw set.

is this what friendship is about?? fake smiles and backstabbing??

It comes from a bunch of people actively working to destroy your life and it saddens me. It is beyond me why people cannot just take a seat back and mind their own business. Last time I checked it was MY life and we were friends, I am very much breathing so instead of spear-heading this crusade against me that may lead to me committing suicide because you have made my life impossible with your one little fable, ask me. We as human beings act like tabloids whose sole purpose is to sell the most papers or get the most hit on a website. I blame the monster that is social interaction. You make someone a social pariah just so as to advance your own social needs. Thankfully I am the type of person that does not really care. It’s all about mind over matter really, as in you don’t matter so I don’t mind and we move on from there. I live in my own little impenetrable world where very little gets to me cause well I don’t give a rats ass. I am the type of girl who someone would come and say oh I heard you pregnant and though false my answer would be oh yes, I am 5months along, it’s a boy we are very excited and are to be wed just before the baby comes, wouldn’t want him born a bastard *chuckles*.

I swear people think they living in gossip girl

Sadly not everyone is like that, thick skinned and all so I urge of you, friends enough of the stabbing each other in the back why can’t we go back to having each other’s backs?? And seemingly society is OK with this and such people have been dubbed frenemies, excuse me a moment while I go throw up at the thought of this. I am sorry I will not waste time smiling at someone pretending to be my friend that is not me

friendship should not have to come with warning signs.

That said, there are a few good people out there who will have your back and not try to stab it at the first available moment, if you have one of those I say good for you 🙂 treasure them for they are rare gems..xx

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