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Woman Crush Wednesday – Lulu Haangala

So its day two of my zed blogger challenge and I thought its Wednesday what better to write about that a female who inspires me. Now I won’t pretend to be deep and all that picking on someone whose name I can’t pronounce or spell right. No. I have decided to pick someone close to home. My big sister the beautiful 🙂 Luyando Haangala.. 

To some she is just some annoying loud little girl who jumps up and down in front of a camera making noise, to others she is a person they look at in awe and aspire to be like but for me she is my sister who is an amazing Mother to an even more amazing little girl, she is an amazing friend and she is an even more amazing sister.

the gorgeous Asante

What is so inspiring about her you may wonder? Her story. She may be an annoying loud little girl who jumps up and down in front of a camera making noise, but she had a dream to get behind the camera and she worked hard until she got that dream. I would like to go into depth about her struggle to get where she is today which is as one of the few delegates selected to the Washington Young African Leaders Fellowship, but I am not sure she would permit me to do so. She is probably saving that for her memoirs and I would not want to preempt that ;-). 

I remember her singing when she was 5 years old, in an off key voice of course (not every 5 year old is blessed with talent at that early age) but she knew what she wanted and guess what that 5 year old ended up being invited to sing for Zambia’s 1st Republican President!!!

the five year old with a voice that sings off key and a dream!!!

When she came back to Zambia, she had a dream of a future she wanted, many looked at her as a dreamer, others, laughed her off, others helped 🙂 and now she is slowly but surely watching her dreams come to light. 

Walt Disney said “All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.” I am grateful for my sister because she gives me the courage to pursue my dreams. She truly makes me believe that impossible is nothing. 

My name is Lweendo and I am a Zed Blogger x

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My first..

I received my first #IAmAZedBlogger challenge for the month of January and I must say I was quite excited.. The challenge was to do something new and well write about it.. Well, I couldn’t think of a more befitting subject than my journey into the beautiful thing that is motherhood…

I met my son on the 25th of September 2013 and my life hasn’t been the same since, in a good way :-). Because of him I have experienced a lot of firsts like the first smile, the first poop diaper, yes even that was fun!!!!! Lol…. Anyway, I’m looking forward to many more firsts with him xx……

The reason for a lot of firsts to come :-)

The reason for a lot of firsts to come 🙂

My family.. Love these two to bits....

My family.. Love these two to bits….

My angel and I on our first vacation....

My angel and I on our first vacation….

Happily Never After

“pick me, choose me, love me.” are the words she wanted to scream at him as she stood there before him, her world seemingly crashing around her, her heart beating so slow it was as if it would stop at any minute.

“Its you, it has always been you, and it will always be you” are the words she hoped she would hear him say but alas, they were not to come and so she turned and walked away into her happily never after.

Growing up, I must admit I was one of those kids that lived for the fairytale. Cinderella, Snow White, all spoke of personal pain and suffereing and happiness in the end. So naturally,  I was one of those kids that hoped to be rescued from my evilnstepmother or whatever bondage I had to unhappiness by my very own dashing prince charming and we would ride on in the sunset to our happily ever after. Not on a white horse of course but maybe in a ferarri. But sadly the bitch that is growing up makes you ralise that it is all but a dream. Plus I came to be realised that I was too fiercly stubborn and independent to be ummmm ‘rescued’.

So I grew up, but sadly instead of actually erasing the fairytale dream from my life, you would think that this was the end of my dependence on others and the birth of a fiercely independent female who needed noone for self validation, ego feeding and all that, but alas, I merely replaced it with the dream that one day someone would come into my life and put me first always and no matter what. Really that is all people search in relationships, someone to love them unconditionally, some one not looking for an angel but willing to be with you flaws and all. Some one to put your needs ahead of not only theirs but everyone else’s needs. The more lifen throws at me the more I come to see that even this is a notion that is a mere facade and does not exist, not on this plane anyway.  So a new lesson is slowly being embedded into my thick brain, that is only I can put myself first. Only I can love myself unconditionally and put my needs above the needs of all others.

“She looked on from her happy never after, her eyes like a window albiet foggy from the tears she was fighting back seeing things almost as clear as day as he carried on with his happy ever after.”

A beautiful mess

Initially, this post should have been titled happy endings but then right now I am listening to the musical genius that is Jason Mraz I felt this title adequately summed up my life at the moment. I haven’t posted in a while cause my life was seemingly headed in a downward spiral one aspect of it anyway

a downward plummet to certain death, ok I exaggerate a

and I sort of lost interest in anything well that isn’t school or sport. Then today, I happened to come across Djlallita’s blog  and I don’t know I felt inspired to come here and pour out my feelings…

I recently went through a break-up which I still don’t know how to react to in all honesty been with the guy for almost four years and I was certain that this is the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with but then a few months ago I started panicking. Thinking to myself what if I wake up one day realising that I had let my whole life pass me by and end up going eat, pray, love on my family?? I felt like I was so absorbed in the relationship that I did not know who I was outside it, and I expressed my feelings and fears to said partner and at first all was going well and then one tiny indiscretion on my part and DUMPED! 

lol and I don’t know it kinda hit hard cause in as much as it was unfair on my part to kinda expect him to wait on me while I have my eat, pray love ,moment now, I didn’t expect the door to be shut and firmly so. However, I started picking myself up and each day I find out something new about myself. News about him stings a little or makes me wonder but I am done dwelling on what could have been and I am actually on the path of discovery which is what I wanted in the first place. I actually have a crush *giggles* which has its annoying moments, I feel like I am back in highschool. lol

I wanna leave cute little notes on his locker but in this day and age of modern tech, anonymity is a thing of the past. lol

A motto I always live by well not really a motto but a way of life, I try really hard not to say things in anger unless the person is a stranger to me whom I will never lay eyes on ever again. hurtful words exchanged can never be taken back even with a thousand I’m sorry’s so when in argument with people I love and care about, I tend to pick the third, fourth or fifth statement to come to mind, never the first or second cause more often than not they lead to a a bridge burnt that takes ages to rebuild. Ok now I have lost my train of thought as I have just returned from 4 excruciating hours of class.. anyway my point is we need to choose our words carefully cause they tend to cause the most unseen scars and affect people’s lives in more ways than one.. There is no reason you cannot reach amicable solutions without the exchange of harsh words..

wow the way I have jumped topics , just cause to show what a mess albiet beautiful my mind is at the moment. I am on this path of self discovery 🙂 and I’m learning new things about my self everyday I really should keep a journal about the next few months of my life would not like my readers to be subjected to every gory detail of my life, lol unless of course you don’t mind then who am I to say otherwise.

In other news, the varisty monster has hit and hard at that grrrrrr. Finals in two weeks but on the up side in about 3 and a half weeks I will have an LLB 🙂 yay me!!

anyway ummm I will sign off by saying, no regrets in life, just lessons learned. on that note, I bid you farewell.


Little Miss Sunshine :)


I just got nominated for the sunshine award by 🙂 and I am honest to God flattered considering I have been a blogger for about a week now 🙂 so thank you Stephanie.. Oh you MUST check out her blog it is random but refreshing 😉 true story..

Well I suppose it is a fitting nomination considering what a ball of sunshine I have been *insert arrogant narcissistic speech here* LOL.. I am just kidding of course,l although I must say the nomination has left me feeling like I am walking on sunshine 🙂  hope I don’t get burnt though 😉

Ok I am about to say something deep and introspective,no really I am, so if you not in a deep introspective mood then ummmm maybe you should skip to the end, lol I don’t know what it is about my life that I changed but I am happier and feel like the world is a happy place where butterflies poop rainbows. I suppose in a sort of way, I am walking on sunshine and not letting anything or anyone get me down. Why is that? Because happiness is found deep within me 🙂 I honestly used to care a lot about what people said and thought about me. Then I just let go because in as much as there are plenty of people who don’t like me, there is more who who love me and what’s more is that I love myself so I am GOOOODDD!! I am my own little ball of sunshine in more ways that one 🙂

Being a first time nominee I have noooo clue what to do but I will give it my best shot and I suppose follow the instructions to the latter. I surely do hope I do it right or else I might have to do it all over again.. 

The following are details of this award:

  • Include the award’s logo on your blog.
  • Answer some questions about yourself.
  • Nominate 10-12 other fabulous bloggers for this award.
  • Link your nominees to the post and comment on their blogs letting them know they have been nominated. (now this seems like a mammoth task, oh well if it must be done)
  • Share the love and link to the person who nominated you
  1. What is your favorite color? I do not like to pick a favourite cause I feel like I am making the other colours feel bad.. seriously, I was one of those kids who coloured with all the crayons.. <_>
  2. What is your favorite animal? All puppy dogs
  3. What is your favorite number? Six
  4. What is your favorite non-alcoholic drink? Fanta or Pure-Joy Orange Juice
  5. Do you prefer Facebook or Twitter?  Twitter, facebook is soooo bleh…
  6. What is your passion?  Family, friendships, reading, music, travel, sports, laughter, outdoors, bar-b-cues (yeah I said it), good food… 
  7. Do you prefer getting or giving presents? BOTH!!!!
  8. What is your favorite pattern? I like solids cause I LOVE to accessorize so they are easier to work with..
  9. What is your favorite day of the week? any day with day in it 🙂
  10. What is your favorite flower? errrr the Pretty flower??? lol 

I nominate the following cause they bring sooooo much sunshine every time I read a post 🙂 Without further ado, my nominees in no particular order, drum roll please 🙂

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