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Woman Crush Wednesday – Lulu Haangala

So its day two of my zed blogger challenge and I thought its Wednesday what better to write about that a female who inspires me. Now I won’t pretend to be deep and all that picking on someone whose name I can’t pronounce or spell right. No. I have decided to pick someone close to home. My big sister the beautiful 🙂 Luyando Haangala.. 

To some she is just some annoying loud little girl who jumps up and down in front of a camera making noise, to others she is a person they look at in awe and aspire to be like but for me she is my sister who is an amazing Mother to an even more amazing little girl, she is an amazing friend and she is an even more amazing sister.

the gorgeous Asante

What is so inspiring about her you may wonder? Her story. She may be an annoying loud little girl who jumps up and down in front of a camera making noise, but she had a dream to get behind the camera and she worked hard until she got that dream. I would like to go into depth about her struggle to get where she is today which is as one of the few delegates selected to the Washington Young African Leaders Fellowship, but I am not sure she would permit me to do so. She is probably saving that for her memoirs and I would not want to preempt that ;-). 

I remember her singing when she was 5 years old, in an off key voice of course (not every 5 year old is blessed with talent at that early age) but she knew what she wanted and guess what that 5 year old ended up being invited to sing for Zambia’s 1st Republican President!!!

the five year old with a voice that sings off key and a dream!!!

When she came back to Zambia, she had a dream of a future she wanted, many looked at her as a dreamer, others, laughed her off, others helped 🙂 and now she is slowly but surely watching her dreams come to light. 

Walt Disney said “All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.” I am grateful for my sister because she gives me the courage to pursue my dreams. She truly makes me believe that impossible is nothing. 

My name is Lweendo and I am a Zed Blogger x

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Tearing everything up so as to begin anew

Trying to hold on to what was because even if it hurts, it brings comfort
Knowing that letting go and admitting the pain is the only way to rebuild
Feeling, love, hate, hurt, remorse, pain, regret, joy
Wondering how it is possible for one to harbour all these emotions
Thinking of the masterpiece that could have been
Soaring above the greyest clouds
Walking on sunshine even on the darkest of days
Wishing one was more guarded and not such an open book
Dreaming of a future where everything is black and white with no traces of grey
Torn between the decisions of the heart and the mind
Praying but hoping that prayers remain unanswered
Taking time to sow hoping to reap in the future
Asking for the patience to reap what has been sown
Waiting for a knight to come and save the day
Knowing that the wait may last a while
Staring at a sink full of blood
Bearing through the pain hoping to find healing
Remembering that though lost for the moment, the way home is never forgotten.

In my eyes

In my eyes, a story is told. A story of how sad I am, how I just wanna cry out at the frustrations that the world will throw at me. A story of how happy I am and how I am bursting at the seams wanting to shout out my joy. In my eyes a story is always told. xx

Taking stock

Some people believe in looking back on the past chastising themselves for the things they feel they did wrong and thereafter trying to atone for the reproachable behavior , in as much as this may have worked for some people, it has never worked for me. I truly do well believe in the motto no regrets in life just lessons learned.

So for instance I was with someone for almost four years was convinced wedding bells were surley the next step that our relationship would take but life had other plans. I dont look back on that and say wow thats three years of my life I will never get back. No, but instead from each fight I took a lesson, from each kind gesture I took away a lesson , from each episode of mistrust, I took away a lesson. 

As for the accident that apparently should have ended my life (again, God has other plans) I took away vauable lessons about family and friendship.Yes, even one of the most horrific traumatising things to happen to me as an adolosecent I found a lesson to take away from. oh and that I should be more patient when crossing the road (LOL)

They (dont ask me who) say that the best person to give advice to someone is some one who experienced the issue first hand.They also say you cannot truly comfort a person unless you feel thier pain. I concur with them, who ever they are. I try as much as possible to limit the advice I give out to situations I have experienced myself, because I believe that you can never truly understand unless you can relate.

WAIT!!What was my point again?? or right, taking stock.  of what exactly?? your life, where it has been , where it seems to be headed, where you want it to be headed. it is very important to once in a while take stock of all the lessons learnt and put them to good use . People tend to do that at the end of every year and then give themselves resolutions which they never stick to and they end up disappointed with themselves at the end of the year and promise to do better the next year. Not me . So the next time you are asked why you doing something that you never did before or are going out of your way like never before, a good answer is always “People change , I have learned”

And as you take stock , you will realise that your life may not be working out the way YOU planned it, but thats ok :).xx




Filling Voids

The trend with life is that when something is lost or broken or stolen you replace it. You lose a pair of your favourite earrings, replace them with a new one, you break a glass or plate buy new ones, you lose your NRC, get it replaced. This in my opinion is simply because you do not want to have a gap in your life where you are without said things. Truth be told as they are material, it would be impossible for you to go through life without them without losing your mind. So fine go ahead and replace. For me the problem comes in when we try to apply those same principles to our relationships with other human beings. You get dumped, you get a rebound, your friend stops talking to you, you try to fill that gap with a new friend. It is rare that these people who I will refer to as ”void fillers” are in our lives long enough to make a lasting impression. More often than not they just end being a mere memory, a conversation filler that we chuckle at or the person we photo-shop out of pictures cause well, the sight of them makes your stomach get into all sorts of knots and twinge with regret. Sometimes, rarely though, the void filler comes into your life makes a lasting impression and stays there. But most of the time they end up hurt cause they were merely being used to fill the void left by someone else. You try to replace the person lost and more often than not, the said replacement is not up to par so we get bored and toss them to the side like yesterday’s lasagne. What is even more sad is that we end up hurting the person and try to justify it with the whole “some people come into your life for a reason, others for a season”.  My question then is do we really need the void filler in our lives?? Must the principle we use when we lose material things apply to our human relationships?? I think no. Its simple, in my opinion when you lose someone in your life take it as an opportunity to re-evaluate yourself and pin-point why you lost the person. This way when you do ‘replace’ the person, the replacement will be more than a void filler as you would have repaired whatever damage (if any) that was caused by the person you lost. So the next time you think of ‘replacing’ someone lost, ask yourself if that person is just a void filler or you genuinely want that person in your life. xx

Back to the future


When I was younger the title of this movie amused me greatly because you see to the mind of a ten year old it made no sense to go back into the future. And then as one gets older and learns about oxymoron and metaphors and all that, one pretends to begin to understand. Over the past few years when asked if I had a chance to relive my life given what I know now, would I change anything? I would always answer without hesitation and with great conviction a big fat NO! you know the usual clichés about lessons learned from mistakes and so on and so forth, but now I stop for a second to think, if I had a DoLorean DMC 12 with no rules as to how what I change in the past will affect my future,would I really change nothing at all. To say I wouldn’t would be far from the truth. For starters I would move in time to not get hit by that car and have an accident that almost left me paralysed (God loves me), and I suppose there are certain people in my life I wish I had met earlier and I would make it happen, you know the people you know now that make you sing Rihanna’s where have you been all my life at the top of your voice without a care in the world, yes those people I would make it so that I do not have to sing that song. Also there is a bad decision here and there that I’m certain if I had the chance I would do things differently, a relationship here and there that I would have worked harder to keep or not wasted my time on. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that I have lived a life full of regrettable decisions that I would change within a blink of an eye, no. Truth be told, I am a firm believer in the saying “no regrets in life just lessons learned”, but All I am asking is would you really change nothing at all?? given the chance with no consequences?? would you really pass it up. I know I wouldn’t. xx





Little Miss Sunshine :)


I just got nominated for the sunshine award by 🙂 and I am honest to God flattered considering I have been a blogger for about a week now 🙂 so thank you Stephanie.. Oh you MUST check out her blog it is random but refreshing 😉 true story..

Well I suppose it is a fitting nomination considering what a ball of sunshine I have been *insert arrogant narcissistic speech here* LOL.. I am just kidding of course,l although I must say the nomination has left me feeling like I am walking on sunshine 🙂  hope I don’t get burnt though 😉

Ok I am about to say something deep and introspective,no really I am, so if you not in a deep introspective mood then ummmm maybe you should skip to the end, lol I don’t know what it is about my life that I changed but I am happier and feel like the world is a happy place where butterflies poop rainbows. I suppose in a sort of way, I am walking on sunshine and not letting anything or anyone get me down. Why is that? Because happiness is found deep within me 🙂 I honestly used to care a lot about what people said and thought about me. Then I just let go because in as much as there are plenty of people who don’t like me, there is more who who love me and what’s more is that I love myself so I am GOOOODDD!! I am my own little ball of sunshine in more ways that one 🙂

Being a first time nominee I have noooo clue what to do but I will give it my best shot and I suppose follow the instructions to the latter. I surely do hope I do it right or else I might have to do it all over again.. 

The following are details of this award:

  • Include the award’s logo on your blog.
  • Answer some questions about yourself.
  • Nominate 10-12 other fabulous bloggers for this award.
  • Link your nominees to the post and comment on their blogs letting them know they have been nominated. (now this seems like a mammoth task, oh well if it must be done)
  • Share the love and link to the person who nominated you
  1. What is your favorite color? I do not like to pick a favourite cause I feel like I am making the other colours feel bad.. seriously, I was one of those kids who coloured with all the crayons.. <_>
  2. What is your favorite animal? All puppy dogs
  3. What is your favorite number? Six
  4. What is your favorite non-alcoholic drink? Fanta or Pure-Joy Orange Juice
  5. Do you prefer Facebook or Twitter?  Twitter, facebook is soooo bleh…
  6. What is your passion?  Family, friendships, reading, music, travel, sports, laughter, outdoors, bar-b-cues (yeah I said it), good food… 
  7. Do you prefer getting or giving presents? BOTH!!!!
  8. What is your favorite pattern? I like solids cause I LOVE to accessorize so they are easier to work with..
  9. What is your favorite day of the week? any day with day in it 🙂
  10. What is your favorite flower? errrr the Pretty flower??? lol 

I nominate the following cause they bring sooooo much sunshine every time I read a post 🙂 Without further ado, my nominees in no particular order, drum roll please 🙂

Make Yourself happy..

I should be reading for my test at 2pm but I came across something from my second year of UNI that I thought I should share..Ever wanted something so bad that even though it is in your reach, you cant just figure out why you cant grab it?? Dance if you feel like dancing, laugh if it pleases you, eat till you can eat no more, love like its the last you can do…. make yourself feel good…be your own boss and before you can even hope that someone makes you happy, MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY 🙂 xoxo


No one knows more about making themselves happy than a child, we can learn a thing or two from them..

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